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Embodying the True You

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Written by: Brandon Epstein

You know what’s really hard?

Believing you can have something that has never before existed in your world, whether that something be the body of your dreams, monetary income, a specific type of relationship or a consistently happy life.

If you have never experienced a certain desired outcome personally, it’s hard to believe that it could ever be a part of your reality. The harsh truth is that this thing you desire will probably never be a part of your reality until you start embodying the traits that will create it.

The good news is that embodying these traits takes nothing more than rediscovering the TRUE YOU.

The true you embodies all the traits that are in alignment with helping you produce what you desire most.

To rediscover this true you, you must first go through a process of reverse engineering what it is you truly desire. This is a process I do in my own life for everything I desire and is also a process I do with all of my weight loss clients.

If you’re up for a little fun, let’s give this process a try together.

Step 1: Identify what it is that you have been struggling to create in your life.

Again, this could be weight you have been struggling to lose, a healthy relationship you have been struggling to cultivate, or anything else you have been struggling to bring into your reality.

Now that you have identified what it is you want, I want you to utilize one of the most powerful tools you have.

Your imagination.

Happy-PersonI want you to imagine how you would act if you had this result you desire.

How would you interact with people? How would they interact with you? What kind of confidence would you have? What would your mood be like? What would become easier in your life?

Close your eyes and imagine walking around your neighborhood as if this result was already real for you. Feel the emotions, see the world through your new perspective, experience it fully. Embody it on every level.

Now come back into this reality and take that same energy you just cultivated and embody it as you read this article. How would your breathing change? Would you be smiling? Are there any impulses that have emerged for you?

Watch yourself in 3rd person as if you have this result you’ve desired for so long and see how your mannerisms have changed.

Can you see that? Can you feel that? Maybe for the first time ever you are beginning to personify on an energetic level what the experience is like to have this result you want to create.

I want you to do what Drew has talked about in past articles and begin to train these neural pathways.

Call To Action: You will do so by setting an alarm in your phone every couple hours that sends you a little message that reminds you to embody this new energy.

Step 2: Ask yourself what actions and traits this new version of yourself embodies.

Now that you are embodying this true you and you know you are on your way to creating the result you desire, the next step is asking yourself what actions and traits does this new version of yourself embody?

If you have created your dream body for example, then you most likely are the kind of person who is incredibly disciplined. You are someone who puts a lot of emphasis on sticking to your daily habits and rituals. You have become the kind of person who is no longer tempted by instant gratification and instead you are much more interested in the long term results you desire.

happy-exercising-waterI want to make this real for whatever goal you have set for yourself and that starts with getting super clear on who you are and what the specific habits are that you participate in.

Let’s start by writing down 10 statements that affirm the true you as it relates to the outcome you desire.

Here are some examples of how you can frame these affirmations:

“I am the kind of person who ________”

“I am _______”

“Every day I do _______ no matter the circumstance”

Call To Action: Write out 10 of these statements that align with the true you.

Step 3: Write down the daily habits you are going to have to participate in to be congruent with this identity of yours.

Here are some examples for someone who wants to create their dream body:

“I workout daily.”

“I eat for fuel instead of emotion.”

“I drink a green juice daily.”

“I drink half my body weight in ounces of water daily.”

Call To Action: Write out your daily habits and schedule them into your calendar immediately.

Once you have written down these habits, you have a game plan on how you can guarantee the result you desire.

This, my friend, is how you reverse engineer your success and discover the true you.

A quick recap:

  • Step 1: Embody the energy of the outcome you desire.
  • Step 2: Embody the traits you will need take on to create the outcome you desire.
  • Step 3: Identify the habits you will need to participate in every day and start implementing them into your life starting now.

If you can follow this framework, you will discover how you can take something from your imagination to reality.

When this happens, you are able to step into the true you and start living life aligned with your highest purpose.

Good luck and don’t hesitate to reach out with any questions you may have. And feel free to comment about any of your experiences below!

 
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Brandon Epstein is a former college football player, turned professional fitness model and serial entrepreneur. These days he spends his time helping people look great and feel awesome over at ZenDudeFitness.com. He can also be found hosting the Zen Dude Fitness Podcast where he’s always looking for new ways to make fat loss fun, simple and efficient for everybody.

 


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The author, Drew Canole, and the associated www.fitlife.tv are not rendering medical advice, nor to diagnose, prescribe, or treat any disease, condition, illness, or injury. It is imperative that before beginning any nutrition or exercise program you receive full medical clearance from a licensed physician.

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5 Magical Reminders To Be Present Daily

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By Kat Gal

“Can I buy some time?”

This is a running question between me and my partner when we feel like we feel overwhelmed or feel like we don’t have enough time for everything.

Maybe you can relate.

Do you ever feel like you need some more time? Do you ever feel like time is going so fast that you can’t complete all your projects; you don’t have time for your family; you can’t find time for exercise; and you certainly can’t find time for yourself?

Do you ever feel like you are disconnected from yourself, from the closest people around you and from nature? Do you ever just crave space?

Especially in today’s fast-paced world, time flies. And while life is short, it is important to take care of yourself, to connect with your friends and family, to slow down and to enjoy life. It is sooooo necessary to enjoy life.

Here are some simple tips to help you slow down and enjoy life, without having to pick up and escape to an island.

1. Reduce your personal internet use – Yep, I said it. Technology is important. You likely use it for your job and you most certainly use it for personal reasons. But I think we use it more than necessary, especially when it comes to social media. However much time you spend mindlessly navigating through social sites – cut it by half. I am not joking. Turn off all your technology at least half an hour before going to sleep and keep your personal internet use to a minimum.

2. Eat slower – Don’t rush it. Connect with your food. Observe it. Smell it. Notice the texture, the taste and the aroma. Chew slowly and carefully. Put down your fork between your bites. Stop when you are full. Notice your body’s reactions. Slower and more mindful eating is not only better for your digestion, it will create higher levels of happiness on the soul level by connecting with the food that’s nourishing you.

3. Connect with your friends and family – I don’t mean a quick “like” on their Facebook status. I mean really connect with them. Schedule regular coffee dates, walks in the park or, if possible, weekend getaways. Call those that live far away. When you meet or speak with them, really connect. Discuss life events, share stories, tell jokes and most importantly, truly listen. Deep and authentic connections are magical.

4. Connect with nature – You are not a separate entity, you are part of nature. So whenever time permits, connect with nature. Go for a nice run or walk on the trails. Take a bike ride. Hug a tree. Walk barefoot on the grass. Do some gardening. Smell a flower. Watch the clouds passing by in the sky. Breathe in the fresh air. Connect with nature as much as possible, or at least 5 to 10 minutes each day .

5. Take time for yourself – Schedule some time alone – time alone when you are not running errands or crashing onto your bed dead tired and ready to sleep. Take some quality time for yourself. Take a long bath, read a new book, watch your favorite movie, do some journaling, try a new exercise class, meditate, cook some delicious food, create a vision board, make some art or anything else. Find an activity that nurtures your soul and allow yourself to have the time to do it.

 

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Kat Gál is a multi-passionate Holistic Health & Happiness Coach, Freelance Writer, Educator and World Traveler. She has coached women from all around the world, worked with abused children in Kenya, taught English in Mexico, volunteered on an olive farm in Turkey, hitchhiked in Costa Rica and climbed volcanoes in Guatemala to name a few of her happy adventures.You deserve to live a happy and healthy life and Kat is here to show you how to do that. Kat invites you to join the “Happiness Tribe: 2016, the Year of Happiness” on Facebook to create your best year yet within a supportive sisterhood. For more health and happiness tips, visit her website and check out her best-selling program, Your 21-Day Mind-Body-Soul Shake-Up. To contact her for writing assignments, check out her freelance writing website.


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The author, Drew Canole, and the associated www.fitlife.tv are not rendering medical advice, nor to diagnose, prescribe, or treat any disease, condition, illness, or injury. It is imperative that before beginning any nutrition or exercise program you receive full medical clearance from a licensed physician.

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12 Toxic Attitudes that Push Happiness Away From You

 

Written By Marc Chernoff
From Marc & Angel Hack Life

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy.  It is what you think about it.”
― Dale Carnegie

“A 14-year-old patient of mine will be undergoing her 10th surgery in the past two years to combat a rare form of cancer.  Even after all the surgeries, I’ve never seen her frown.  She’s still 100% certain she’ll survive.  And I’m certain her attitude is the primary reason she has survived to this point.  She laughs and plays with her friends and family every day.  And her positive attitude has made her dozens of new friends at the hospital.  A kid like her who can go through everything she’s been through and come out smiling makes me realize how sour my attitude often is for no good reason at all.”

That’s an excerpt from an email I received this morning from one of our readers.  And, coincidentally, just as I finished responding to it, a new email from a course student popped up in my inbox that opened with an extremely similar theme:

“Today I realized that my best friend, who lost her mom last year to cancer, has a happier, more optimistic and thankful attitude about life than I do…”

In our line of work, Angel and I hear from dozens of readers, coaching clients and students enrolled in our Getting Back to Happy course every day.  Through this experience, we often see the same exact toxic attitudes tearing otherwise healthy individuals apart.  And we’ve witnessed, firsthand, the devastation this toxicity causes to their personal and professional growth, and to their relationships.

Let’s be honest, though, we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another.  None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings.  But that doesn’t mean we have to succumb to them.  Whether your toxic attitude is a common occurrence or just a sporadic phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re thinking and acting poorly, and consciously shift your mindset.

Here are 12 of the most common toxic attitudes we see plaguing people, and some tips to get you back on track:

1.  “I don’t have enough to be happy.”

Instead of thanking the heavens for two strong legs and a body that’s capable of running and jumping and dancing, lots of people complain about their weight and appearance.

Instead of appreciating that they live in a country that protects their basic human rights and civil liberties, lots of people complain about laws, taxes and politicians.

Instead of being grateful for the roof they have over their heads, lots of people wish they had a larger house and a fancier car.

Don’t be one of these people.  You may not have it all, but you have a lot.

To witness miracles in your daily life, count your blessings and be thankful for what you DO have.  There are others who aren’t so lucky.

2.  “Happiness should be handed to me on a silver platter.”

Pursuing happiness is not at all the same as being happy, which is a fleeting feeling dependent on momentary circumstances.  If the sun is shining, by all means bask in it.  Happy times are great and often fun-filled, but happy times pass, because time passes.  This is something we often resist, which results in us alienating ourselves and everyone around us.

In other words, we expect to be happy 24/7, and we expect happiness to be delivered to us on a silver platter.  We anticipate an easy life where instant gratification is the norm.  And this leads to disappointment and toxic mood swings.

The truth is that the lifelong pursuit of happiness is elusive; it’s not based on quick thrills and instantaneous fulfillment.  It’s a ‘pursuit.’  And what you are pursuing is meaning – living a meaningful life.  It starts with your “why.”  (Why are you doing what you’re doing every day?)  When your ‘why’ is meaningful, you are pursuing happiness.

There will be times when things go so wrong that you barely feel alive.  And there will also be times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a lifeless existence for 80 years on someone else’s terms.  The pursuit isn’t all or nothing; it’s all AND nothing, with ups and downs and worthwhile lessons along the way.

3.  “Every step I take needs to make logical sense (to everyone).”

If we listened to our logic 24/7 we’d never have truly passionate, romantic relationships.  We’d never have life-long, long-distance friendships.  We’d never go in business because we’d be cynical.  We’d forever be stuck thinking: “I’m going to fail.”  Or “he’s going to hurt me.”  Or, “I’ve had a couple of bad love affairs, so therefore…”  Well that’s nonsense!  You’re going to miss life if you think this way.

If you wait around until everything makes perfect logical sense to you and everyone around you, and you feel 100% safe and ready, you will be waiting the rest of your life.

Sometimes you just have to take a chance!

Sometimes you just have to get up and go for it!

Sometimes you just have to jump off a cliff and build your wings on the way down!

4.  “I’m not good enough.”

When you catch yourself in a cycle of self-hate, you must remind yourself that you weren’t born feeling this way.  That at some point in the past some person or experience sent you the message that something is wrong with you, and you internalized this lie and accepted it as your truth.  But that lie isn’t yours to carry, and those judgments aren’t about you.  And in the same way that you learned to think negatively of yourself, you can learn to think new, positive and self-loving thoughts.

You can learn to challenge those false beliefs, strip away their power, and reclaim your self-respect.  It won’t be easy, and it won’t transpire overnight.  But it is possible.  And it begins when you decide that there has to be a better way to live, and that you deserve to discover it.  (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

5.  “Everyone must like me!”

People who constantly strive for validation by others are exhausting to be around.  Those men and women who get caught up in the need to prove their worth over and over and over, and constantly want to win over everyone around them, are unintentionally toxic and draining.  Know this.  Over-attaching to how things have to look to others can wear you out and bring everyone else around you down.

There is a bigger picture to your life, and it’s not about what you achieve in the eyes of the masses.  It’s about the journey, the process, the path – what you’re learning, how you’re helping others learn too, and the growing process you allow yourself to participate in.

6.  “I’ve seen and heard it all before.”

No matter how much you know, there’s a whole lot you don’t know.  Period.

In almost every situation, a little more willingness to acknowledge that there may be something you do not know could change everything.  Go somewhere new, and countless opportunities suddenly appear.  Do something differently, and all sorts of great new possibilities spring up.

Keep an open mind.  Always.

It’s what we learn, after we “know it all,” that really counts in the end.

7.  “I need to be in control (of everything and everyone).”

Imagine that you’re driving in your car and you get stuck in rush hour traffic.  The traffic situation is out of your control and simply requires your patience.  However, this doesn’t stop you from switching lanes, trying to cut in front of other cars, or even leaving the road you’re on to try alternate routes – all desperate efforts to gain control.  Sadly, these efforts just lead to further stress and unhappiness when they are unsuccessful and control is again obstructed.  And when you finally get home, you take your stress out on the people you love the most.

Embrace the fact that some parts of your life are simply meant to be lived, not controlled.  No matter what happens, no matter the outcome, you’re going to be just fine.  Let the things you can’t control, GO!

Spend your thoughts and efforts on controlling what you do have power over, rather than wasting your peace of mind on the uncontrollable.  (Read The Untethered Soul.)

8.  “I’ve been hurt too badly to ever heal and move forward with my life.”

Hoarding pain and loss only makes the pain and loss last longer.  And this just tears the rest of your life and relationships apart.

One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy – you fight to hold on and you fight to let go.  But oftentimes letting go is the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past.  You’ve got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.

Again, it takes hard work to let go and refocus your thoughts, but it’s worth every bit of effort you can muster.  It’s time to be bold.  It’s time to stop reading the previous chapter of your life and start writing the one you’re currently living.  Learn from your old mistakes and march confidently on.  Sure you’ll make new mistakes along the way, but that’s the whole point – you want to learn from new mistakes, not rot alongside old ones.

Living means taking chances that are worth taking and making mistakes that are worth making.  Right now is simply a new chance to get it right, but you have to let go and take this chance.

9.  “This (and everything) is personal!”

People are toxic to themselves and others when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them.

Of course, it’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.

Most people are so caught up in their own problems, responsibilities and struggles that the thought of asking you how you’re doing doesn’t even cross their mind.  They aren’t being mean or uncaring – they’re just busy and a bit self-centered at times.  And that’s OK.  Don’t attack them for it.  It’s not evidence of some fundamental flaw on your part.  It doesn’t make you unlovable or unworthy.  It just means that some people aren’t very good at looking beyond their own egocentric bubble.  But the fact that you are – that despite the darkness you feel, you have the ability to share your love and light with others – is an incredible strength.  (Read The Mastery of Love.)

10.  “I’m just too busy right now for family and friends.”

Neglect based on lack of attention often damages relationships far more than malicious abuse.

Although it’s perhaps conceivable that you may lie on your deathbed someday regretting that you didn’t work harder and check every little thing off your to-do list, it’s doubtful that your work will be your biggest concern.  What’s more likely, however, is that you will wish you could have one more romantic night with your spouse, another long, heartfelt talk with your sister, and one last good hard laugh with your best friend.

Life is simply too short to be too busy for the people you love.

11.  “What they don’t know won’t hurt them.”

It’s NOT OK to stretch the truth.  Ever!  It really isn’t!  Doing so only leads to stress in the long run.

In fact, it’s disheartening to think how many people are shocked by honesty, and how few by deceit.  Don’t be one of them.  Uphold the truth, always.  Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often, and you should be the one shocking them with honest words and deeds every day.

The bottom line here is that an honest, loving heart is the beginning of everything that is right with this world.  It’s what brings us together and keeps us together through thick and thin.

12.  “I’m better than them (and everyone else for that matter).”

And finally, through it all, you have to keep your pride in check…

To admit you made a mistake.  To say you are sorry.  To know that you can’t possibly know it all.  To have big dreams. To admit you owe your success to others too.  To poke fun at yourself from time to time.  To ask for help when you need it.

To make mistakes and fail.  And to try again, willingly.

There are no permanent jobs or absolutes on this planet.  We are all just interning and exploring here.  Learn from everyone, remain humble, and don’t forget to have a good time along the way.

That’s what happy, successful people do.

Your turn…

If you can see any of these toxic attitudes in yourself, remember, you are not alone.  We all have negativity buried deep within us that has the potential to sneak up on us sometimes.  The key, of course, is awareness – recognizing these toxic attitudes when they arise and stopping them in their tracks.

So, what toxic attitudes do you sometimes struggle with?  How have these attitudes affected your personal and professional contentment?  Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights with us.

 

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10 Reasons People Stop Falling In Love

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10 Reasons People Stop Falling In Love

 

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Choosing not to fall in love is entirely different than falling out of love. When people fall out of love, they have grown in different ways while choosing not to fall in love means people purposefully keep love from happening.

Our hearts do not understand the difference between romantic love and friendship love. Love is love and by not allowing oneself to fall in love we are in essence refusing all love.

People may not even realize they’re are doing it, so we’ve compiled ten reasons people stop falling in love to help understand why it happens.

10 Reasons People Stop Falling in Love:

1. Seeking instant gratification.

As part of a society that promotes and delivers instant access to anything and everything, there’s a problem created, simply because falling in love is anything but instant.

Falling in love isn’t about the “love at first sight” feelings people talk about, it is about building a relationship based on common values and mutual interests. And that takes time.

Unfortunately, instant gratification is an enemy of falling in love, and if we aren’t careful, it could prevent us from experiencing it.

2. Being emotionally unavailable

Some people think of feelings as the enemy and that having them is a sign of weakness. You hide from your feelings in an attempt to appear strong and confident. You create a false reality based on what you think other people want to see.

How can you fall in love when you are not open to the feelings that the process creates? Falling in love is all about feelings, very heightened and very wonderful feelings.

3. Commitment issues

There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for yourself unless it gets in the way of what is right for you. But If you are on a constant quest for something better, you will never know when the best has arrived.

You run the risk of letting the best get away unless you are willing to commit to what is now. Instead of consistently looking for something better, look at what’s best in life right now and focus on that. Only then will better things come to pass.

4. Too much focus on “self”

Being happy is all about doing more of what makes yourself feel good, so it makes sense that we think about what we need. It’s being overly focused on our own selves that’s the problem.

We have to function in society, and that means having relationships with other people, who are also thinking about their needs. It’s important to balance our needs with the needs of others.

5. You just want to have fun

How many times have you said to yourself, “I’m just having fun right now?” You want to go to clubs, date around and party it up. That attitude makes the assumption that falling in love or being in a committed relationship isn’t fun. You are just playing mind games with yourself.

You go out and put yourself out there in the hopes of finding someone to fall in love with, but the reality is you are sending the opposite signals. You are giving up the opportunity to find the right person while in the wrong places.

6. A lack of compromise.

You have an idea of what your perfect partner looks like, but you can’t seem to find them. The problem is that your idea of the perfect partner may not exactly exist.

Start out with a list to use as a guide, but be willing to compromise. It can be painstakingly difficult to find someone who meets every quality, so spend time with people who match the most important characteristics and be open to compromise on the rest.

7. Fairy-Tale Chasing

It’s a fairy tale for a reason. Life doesn’t always follow a script, so why would you expect falling in love to follow one? It is impossible for anyone to live up to such high expectations.

Falling in love is something that happens by forging a path, on its terms. Do yourself a favor and allow it just to happen.

8. Perfectionism

Being perfect in a relationship, and especially while falling in love is just not a time to try to be perfect. People make mistakes, and even fail from time to time.

If an expectation of perfection is present, mistakes and failures will prevent you from moving forward in your relationship. If, however, you aren’t expecting perfection and always strive for excellence instead, you can dust yourself off and continue falling in love.

9. You are focused on your goals.

Many people want to become financially independent, debt free, find a partner, and buy a house all by the time they are 30. While these are fairly lofty goals, it doesn’t sound like time for falling in love has a place on that list.

Dreams, goals, and aspirations are an important part of your individual growth but putting off love until you get your life together can be a big mistake. It will prevent you from opening your heart to love.

By not keeping your heart open, you risk the chance that it may not be available in the future. Be open to falling in love and trust that it will happen when it’s right for you.

10. Love is confusing.

Love is not something you can expect to perform a certain way. It changes, evolves and grows in the most unexpected ways. Love is a complex emotion, and you need to accept as it comes. That can be scary, but it is also wonderful and euphoric when you allow it the freedom to do its thing. Stop trying to figure it out and just be happy you are on the journey.

Are you guilty of any of these? If the answer is yes, consider choosing some of the solutions and just see what happens. Chances are you will regret waiting so long to make the choice.

 

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10 Important Qualities For Success That Are Often Overlooked

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Written By Casey Imafidon
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When talking about success, people are more focused on strategy, character, and hard work. But they fail to realize that success is absolute, and even smaller details cannot be ignored. To be successful, you have to build a total perspective and outlook on it. Successful people rely on these seldom mentioned qualities as well to step ahead of their rivals.

1. Intuition

Often, successful people say that they followed a gut feeling when they pursued a venture. Truthfully, the facts alone are not sufficient. Sometimes, you have to rely on a sixth sense that will direct you on the course to take. Your intuition offers you an insight into whether or not you are right to make a decision.

2. Attention

Successful people are attentive. They pay attention to those things that many others are not focusing on. Imagine Warren Buffet buying a particular stock when every other person is selling. To be successful, you have to focus on the details with a keen eye. Stare at those opportunities that every other person is ignoring.

3. Aggression

The noun here is used in a positive context because it takes fierce passion to succeed. You must want it more than others do. When Barbara Cocoran was first denied the opportunity to be a judge on the TV show “Shark Tank”, she reached out to the organizers of the show in a different way and got what she wanted. Sometimes, it just takes an extra push to win.

4. Mentoring

Well this may have been talked about sometimes. But it has not been emphasized enough. To be successful, having the right mentors to guide you through the process cannot be ignored. You have to identify with someone that will offer you maturity and experience.

5. Values

What values guide you? Are you a person of integrity or not? To be successful, you have to identify with the right values of appreciating hard work, persistence, and sheer grit. There is no short-cut to success, and the right values will direct you.

6. Relationships

Maintaining relationships and building upon them is very important in becoming who you want to be. Be in the right place at the right time and connect with the right people. You can’t avoid building your communication skills if you want to be successful.

7. Curiosity

Asking the right questions defines your success. You have to be eager to know more and enthusiastic to explore. That is why you see successful people dedicating themselves to learning and seeking answers. They are curious; and here, the cliché “curiosity kills the cat” doesn’t apply. These people only become more successful by being curious.

8. Patience

Succeeding requires patience and waiting for your hard work to provide rewards. Accepting delayed gratification is an uncommon quality displayed by many top business leaders like Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, and Donald Trump. This one quality will help you save and build your income while you trudge on the journey. It will always wait why you develop your skills to perfection.

9. Innovation

In this lies creativity and ideas. This is a mysterious quality and could trigger the start of something great and eternal. Innovation is the competitive edge between leaders and followers. How much innovation you have will propel your success. Although abundant, many fail to recognize it. Try to tap into your creativity and unleash this quality.

10. Excellence

Excellence is qualitative and substantive. Excellence is what breeds success. That is why you see many great minds who spend many years perfecting or developing their craft. Excellence is triggered by changing your mindset and approaching every duty as if your success depended on it. Paying attention to detail and running the extra mile shows that you want more out of everything you do. This is why Aristotle referred to excellence many centuries ago as not an act, but a habit.

 

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15 Things You’re Not Taught In School That Determine Your Success

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Written By Gareth Lloyd
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School teaches you many of the fundamental things you’ll need a basic grip on in order to be a genuine success during your life, including math, English, science, discipline, and socializing, to name a few. But not everything that’s worth knowing is chalked up on blackboards. At least, not yet.

Listed here are 15 essential life skills that determine your success yet aren’t part of a typical school curriculum, although they really ought to be.

1. Spotting a Scam

As a rule, schools don’t tend to teach children about how to spot the signs of a swindler, and getting fleeced at least once is currently the only way to learn about the incredible amount of scams that plague the world. Knowing a dodgy deal when you see one is something that comes in handy in today’s world, especially in a day and age in which so many are able to hide behind the shifting face of the internet. Teaching students to spot a scam can allow them to go a long way in life.

2. Negotiation

In most classrooms, there’s very little room for negotiation. Unless the teacher is having a particularly good day and decides to meet children halfway in terms of what the deadlines for that particular lesson might be, any attempt by a student to get a better deal for themselves is met by the teacher’s furrowed brow and an extended finger pointing towards the door. It’s a shame, really, since when you enter the big, bad world of adulthood, being able to negotiate is vital in order to help get you out of some seriously sticky situations. Negotiation strategies come particularly in handy in the world of business, and teaching children how to master this skill from a young age can end up having all kinds of benefits in later life.

3. Self-defense

It’s never nice to think about, but that doesn’t stop the fact that there are depressingly high numbers of dangerous people out there in the world who one day might target you personally for a number of reasons. To stay safe, it’s important to learn the very basics of self-defense – both in terms of being able to protect yourself through the art of speech as well as physically, if it ever comes down to it. Self-defense is an integral part of life, and knowing how to shelter yourself from the evils of the world can boost your confidence, keep you happy, and allow you to live a highly successful life. 

4. Mental Health

Occasionally, schools will host workshops and activity days where various society health representatives will totter from classroom to classroom, but for the most part, the aspect of mental health is left entirely up to the school’s counsellor, if they have one. For the most part, today’s youth are largely kept in the dark about the specifics of mental health, with issues like depression being very poorly understood. Raging teenage hormones are not the same as somebody who’s dealing with depression, and high-quality mental health education is needed in every school in order to help everyone learn about the more troubling conditions of the mind.

5. Socialising & Networking

Managing your internet profile is about so much more than having a high number of “likes” on Facebook these days. It can be the difference between being offered a terrific job opportunity and facing an endless string of rejections. Keeping your appearance online professional and in check will make potential employers recognise your maturity as a person, and schools really ought to widely teach the art and discipline behind crafting your very own unique internet identity.

6. Emergencies & First Aid

Basic first aid ought to be taught at regular intervals in every school at every age. Science is consistently finding new ways to medically treat people, and some of the old breathing assistance techniques that you saw on television back when you were a kid are now considered archaic and even dangerous. Frequent, up-to-the-minute emergency reaction and first aid teaching in schools can go a long way to helping someone out if a serious situation occurs in the future.

7. Household Repairs

As you get older, you’ll come to realise the absolute necessity of being able to perform basic household repairs. There are few worse feelings on earth than an appliance breaking down in your home and you standing ashen-faced with no idea how to fix it. A few basic tutorials in ordinary household maintenance could prove to be enormously expedient when it comes to moving into a first home.

8. Self-assessment

Taking a long, hard look at yourself and acknowledging what you’re truly good at, as well as what you are not so good at, is probably one of the most challenging aspects of life. Few people can truly do it. It takes practice, and being able to come to terms with what you need to improve on can make you a much better person in all aspects of your life.

9. Balance

School rightly encourages you to work hard at improving your academic performance, but what it doesn’t truly teach is the ability to balance your life so that you achieve high levels of gratification in every aspect – from having quiet family time, to working hard, to partaking in joyful evenings with your friends. Achieving a great sense of balance is paramount in order to live a happy, heathy life. Managing your time well will allow you to make sure the things that ought to come first do indeed come first, and not at the expense of anything else.

10. Cooking

There’s a reason why so many university students find themselves living on budget noodles for the entirety of their degree years. Money of course is a factor, but it’s also due to the fact that very few young adults have any real experience cooking by the time they move into college dorms. Serving up a mouth-watering meal isn’t just an art that can pave the way for success for an aspiring chef, either. Cooking is a skill that can impress friends, bosses, dates, and perhaps most importantly, keep you in good health. Cooking classes in schools do exist, of course, but putting a little emphasis on some tasty, healthy recipes could really help turn young children into terrific little cooks by the time they fly out of the nest. 

11. Coping with Harsh Realities

Simply put: life isn’t fair. If you expect it to be, you’re going to be disappointed. Sometimes things will go your way, and on other occasions they won’t. It’s enough to make you want to claw your hair out, but by learning to cope with harsh realities, you’ll be able to live happily without succumbing to the pangs of stress that life can so cruelly impose upon you.

12. Money Isn’t Everything

It’s terrific to have a well-paying job, a big house, and a glossy car on your driveway. We know this because this is what school facilities drum into our heads from day one. It’s a simple equation: Working hard at school = Better grades = Better prospects = More money. But money isn’t happiness. On the contrary, cash can actually be toxic if handled in the wrong way and has the ability bring out the worst in people who are unable to separate it from joy. Wealth and happiness are two very different things, and schools ought to make a conscious effort to instil this in pupils’ heads before they depart from lower education.

13. Learning from Failure

Some teachers are absolutely exceptional at handling children who struggle to deal with even the simplest tasks. But learning from failure isn’t really what school is about. No, school is about doing enough so you don’t fail in the first place. A fine lesson in itself, but the fact is that at some point in their lives, everybody will fail.

But no failure is a catastrophe if you learn from it. Understanding what went wrong and why something didn’t turn out as planned can help you to curb your lifestyle so that it never happens again. It can and will turn you into a stronger, more successful person.

14. Forgiveness

It can be tricky to say that you forgive somebody who has let you down. It’s even more difficult to actually mean it. Learning how to let the silly things go and move on with your life may be something that’s discussed in specific counselling sessions with people who have gotten themselves into extremely problematic situations, but otherwise, the act of forgiveness isn’t something that’s currently taught in schools across the world. It’s a process that requires patience and understanding. It puts you into someone else’s shoes, helps you to understand other people, and makes you a more successful person in life.

15. Expect the Unexpected

Perhaps it’s a little tough to teach this, but it’s a rule that everyone ought to live by in order to be a successful person. The world is an utterly unpredictable place. It’s a scary thought, but at the same time it’s also kind of wonderful, if you’re prepared for it. Putting yourself in the mindset that absolutely anything might be lying around the corner in wait can actively improve your personality and help you to deal with life when times get a little tough.

 

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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

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People who are mentally strong and well adjusted are different in a number of ways. Very often, the best way to learn from such people is to observe what actions and behaviors they avoid. Here are the top 13 things not to do if you want to be mentally strong.

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1. Quit When Things Get Tough

One of the most important qualities of mentally strong people is resilience and the ability to keep going when they run into obstacles. This is a quality found in some of the toughest people in the world, such as Navy SEALs.

2. Envy Other People

It’s a waste of time to envy the success of other people. Everyone has his or her own unique talents and abilities. You should focus on your own goals and dreams and not try to succeed by other people’s standards.

3. Not Learn From Their Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes. One thing that sets the mentally strong apart, though, is that they don’t keep repeating their mistakes. You should see mistakes as part of the learning process. This means, however, that you take the lessons from each mistake and move forward.

4. Blame Others For Their Problems

Blaming other people, whether your family, your boss or the government for your problems is a nonproductive habit. Successful people take responsibility for their own success or failure and don’t shift the blame upon others.

5. Avoid Risk

If you want to succeed at anything, you must take certain calculated risks. If you stay in your comfort zone, it’s hard to make progress. That’s why the strongest people are willing to take risks in areas that are important to them.

6. Expect Instant Gratification

The ability to delay gratification is crucial to being mentally strong. Those who give up when they don’t instantly see results don’t get far in life.

7. Dwell in the Past

To be mentally strong, it’s essential to focus on the present and future. The past can help you learn but if you are always pining for the good old days, you will tend to get left behind.

8. Live to Please Others

If you are always trying to please your family, friends or co-workers, you will find it hard to fulfill your own destiny. That’s why the strongest and most successful people don’t make a habit out of trying to make everyone else happy.

9. Resist Chance

The world is changing fast and you need to be adaptable to keep up with it. This includes new ideas and attitudes as well as technological advances.

10. Stay Connected all the Time

While there is much to be learned from other people, the media and the internet, you also need down time to recharge. Evidence suggests that people who don’t fear being alone are more creative and independent.

11. Go Along With the Crowd

When it comes to actions as well as ideas, mentally strong people are independent minded. They don’t do things or think things simply because others do.

12. Catastrophize

Catastrophizing means expecting the worst to happen. While it’s sensible to prepare for potential problems, if you are actively expecting catastrophe to strike, you will tend to sabotage yourself and miss out on potential opportunities.

13. Procrastinate

Mentally strong people know that putting things off does not help them achieve their goals. If you have a tendency to procrastinate, you should admit this to yourself and resolve to tackle those tasks you’ve been postponing.

 

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