Are You Your Biggest Critic? 5 Steps To STOP Beating Yourself Up!


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By Lindsay Sibson

The saying goes that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Your family, spouse, friends, colleagues and acquaintances can have a significant influence on your energy, feelings and thoughts. Have you ever been around someone that never has a nice word to say? Doesn’t exactly leave you feeling warm and fuzzy, does it? That person’s negativity slowly penetrates you, bringing with it an overall blah and gloomy feeling.

I agree that the people you surround yourself with are highly influential on your life.  However, I feel like the statement above fails to focus on the most crucial element…

YOU. Your mind, your thoughts and the inner dialogue you have with yourself!

YOU are #1 of the five people you spend the most time with. Your mind is with you every second of the day and isn’t as easy to escape from as that negative Nancy coworker of yours that is always complaining about the weather/traffic/economy. Your stream of thought is continually flowing whether you are paying attention to it or not.

What are YOU saying to yourself?

shutterstock_998246-300x200If you take a few moments to watch the daily news, you can see there are many reports riddled with the terrible effects of bullying, hate crimes and violence. One person hurt another. This group attacked that group. You look at these circumstances as absolutely unacceptable and wrong. It’s rude to call another person fat. It’s unkind to tell a person they are not good enough or that what they said was stupid.

Yet, when you hear that voice inside you say, ”Ewww. Look at that cellulite!  My skin is grooooss. Look at that muffin top – YUCK. My hair is awful. WHY did I say that – that was dumb…”

You don’t go running to report this awful treatment to your local authorities. Yet, it’s equally as wrong and unacceptable and it’s time to silence your bully within.

If you have a bully within you that needs to be tamed, here are 5 steps to SILENCE your inner critic:

1. Let It Burn: The beauty about each new day is that we have a new opportunity to start over. The past is the past and no amount of thought can change what happened yesterday or last year. It is time to draw a line under the past and stop using your energy thinking about what you should’ve, could’ve, or would’ve done. Take a few moments to write down your inner comments, statements and thoughts that are not contributing to a positive self-image (about your body, energy, relationships, habits, careers, etc…). Purge it ALL! After you finish, take that piece of paper, tear it to shreds and burn it! YOU are not that person of the past.

2. Your Personal Manifesto: Now, it is time to put some thought into the type of person you WANT to be. You are in the driver’s seat of how you act and interact with the world.

Instead of just acting on autopilot and reverting back to old behaviors and thought patterns, it is necessary to put conscious thought into deciding WHO you want to show up in the world as. Focus on how you want to feel, how you express yourself, your daily actions and your contributions to others.

For example: “I wake up in the morning full of energy and happiness. I am exercising daily and my body feels strong and healthy. I am feeding my mind with uplifting and inspiring information that I am able to share and teach others. Etc…”

3. One A Day: Pick the ONE habit that, if you implement now, will have the biggest impact on your happiness, health and overall life. Once that habit becomes intertwined with your life and is automatic, choose another habit/task and continue to do so until you are living the life you WANT and are the person you desire to be.

4. Gratitude: There is always, always, always something to be thankful for. Develop the practice of being grateful for all the blessings in your life. To enhance this experience, start a gratitude journal and aim to write 5 statements each day. Can you see clearly? Then give thanks for having eyes to see this beautiful world. Do you have a roof over your head? Give thanks for your shelter. This exercise is particularly important after a tough day!

5. Pay It Forward: “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.“Zig Ziglar.

You have your ups and downs as well as your stresses and worries. Life can be quite a challenging endeavor! But, as the saying goes at, “we’re in this together.” Encourage and compliment others. By doing so, you may just be helping the other person quiet their inner bully! Focus on the talents, thoughts and skills that you can share with others and pay it forward.

Always remember that what you think about is what you bring about. If you desire a happy, healthy and fulfilling life, then you must condition your mind to think happy, healthy and fulfilling thoughts! By putting the intention on paying attention to your thoughts, you are in control of creating WHAT you want.

Image Credit: Find Real Love, Finer Minds

Lindsay SibsonLindsay Sibson

Lindsay Sibson turned her lifelong dream of traveling the world into reality when she stepped on a plane to London, April 17, 2014. With the simple intention of learning more about this beautiful world, she stepped away from corporate America to explore an alternative lifestyle of long term international travel, volunteering, blogging and pursuing a blissfully happy and fulfilling way of life.Through her blog, Lindsay documents her journey in hopes of empowering others to find their passion, reignite their spark and freshen their outlook on life.


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