By Kat Gal
Loving yourself is important. It is crucial for your physical and emotional health, for your happiness, for your self-image, for your relationship with others, for your attitude, for your life-satisfaction and so many other reasons.
Chances are, you’ve heard about these amazing benefits of self-love.
But self-love can be tough. For some people, self-love comes naturally and easily. For others, it is difficult or may even seem impossible.
If you are part of the second group, you may wonder “how on Earth will I ever love myself completely?”
There are plenty of great tools to begin practicing self-love. Mirror work, journaling and movement are my personal favorites. Affirmations are a popular and excellent resource as well.
You may still experience a hard time incorporating these tools if this is something new for you. Just remember that any time you try something different, it can take some getting used to so stick with it!
You may stand in front of the mirror saying “I love you,” yet you have a hard time really meaning it. You may not be a natural writer and so journaling is tough. Copying these great tools off the internet may not feel right (just yet). But in time, I am confident this process will get easier for you and I want to help!
There is a great road to self-love besides all of the most popular techniques shared online. You can even create your own tools – though it is also awesome to use popular and proven techniques when you’re not sure where to start.
Where should you start?
1. I want to keep this simple. Start by asking yourself the question, “When do I feel loved?”
Everyone has different answers to this. You may feel loved when someone gives you a hug, looks into your eyes, cooks you a nice meal, gives you a present, buys you flowers or watches the sunset next to you. It is all personal. But everyone has at least a short list of things that makes them feel loved – including you!
2. Write down everything that makes you feel loved.
Pick one or pick a few and do that every single day for yourself. That’s right, you don’t need to depend on someone to do things to make you feel loved. You can buy yourself flowers or give yourself a hug too. Do something every single day that makes you feel loved. In time, with regular practice, you will begin to reap the rewards of self-love.
Just think about it… if someone gives you a hug, cooks you dinner, talks to you nicely, compliments you, looks deeply into your eyes, shares their vulnerability, opens up with their secrets, supports you and buys you flowers (and so on), sooner or later, you begin to feel loved by that person.
What if that person is you? Will you eventually feel love from yourself towards yourself? I believe so.
That doesn’t mean that you should throw affirmations, positive self-talk and mirror work into the garbage though.
Affirmations, positive self-talk and mirror work are irreplaceable tools of self-love. Don’t you feel loved when someone says “I love you” or “You are wonderful, inspiring, beautiful and smart?” I thought so.
2. Along with loving actions, say and think loving affirmations.
Use the sentences that make you feel loved: write them down, say them out loud while looking into the mirror and repeat them quietly. When you are using affirmations in front of the mirror, make sure to look into your eyes in the mirror when saying your affirmations – create a deep and true connection with yourself.
This is just one way to do mirror-work. You can do mirror-work in a million ways – just looking at yourself, having conversations, reading yourself a love letter, sharing your thoughts, complimenting yourself and so on – but no matter what you do, always look into your eyes when doing mirror-work.
Affirmations and mirror-work are just a few ways to engage in positive self-talk with yourself. But throughout the day, you talk to yourself constantly, perhaps not out loud, but your mind is going. Make sure you use positive language, loving and encouraging words and positive, loving self-talk. Talk to yourself as you would talk to someone you really love.
Loving actions + Loving words = Love.
Self-loving actions + Self-loving words = Self-love.
Just remember, once you feel the love, do not even think about stopping with the loving thoughts and actions. You wouldn’t want someone else to stop expressing their love either, right? So, keep continuing with the self-love. You deserve it.
Holistic Health & Happiness Coach at Kat Gal Coaching
Kat Gál is a multi-passionate Holistic Health & Happiness Coach, Freelance Writer, Educator and World Traveler. She has coached women from all around the world, worked with abused children in Kenya, taught English in Mexico, volunteered on an olive farm in Turkey, hitchhiked in Costa Rica and climbed volcanoes in Guatemala to name a few of her happy adventures.You deserve to live a happy and healthy life and Kat is here to show you how to do that. Kat invites you to join the “Happiness Tribe: 2016, the Year of Happiness” on Facebook to create your best year yet within a supportive sisterhood. For more health and happiness tips, visit her website and check out her best-selling program, Your 21-Day Mind-Body-Soul Shake-Up. To contact her for writing assignments, check out her freelance writing website.
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